Monday, June 2, 2008
Pacifiers
When is the best time to take the "Pacifiers" or as we call them shosha's (Portuguese for pacifier) away? As you can see, my little one is attached to them, she is only 15 months old. She will swap two if she can find them, she will rotate them in her mouth. I have them stashed away in my kitchen. Normally, she doesn't have them at all during the day, only when she takes her nap and or goes to bed? Do they mess up kids teeth? Her two front teeth already poked through but they are not all the way grown out yet? When is the best time for the seperation? How bad will this be?
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The sooner you take it away then the pressure of her upper lip with slowly push her front teeth back. My mom works for a dentist, so I asked the same questions. My rule is the pacifier or bottle is gone on the 2 birthday. My second son had the pacifier, I just told him that "I can't find it" and we would look around the house and then he would get distracted and move on. At night he would be sad, but after two days he moved on. At two years he had already see me look for things like, shoes, car keys, jackets, so he got the concept. I think that the hardest part is the mom being able to let them find some way to "self-sooth" (teddybear, blanket, toy) and not let their sad little face break your heart. Because if you give in then they will never believe you if you try to take it away again.
Amber,
Thank you for the advice. I am so ready to ditch them, but I need to do it gradually. She does soothe herself with these so I am going to have to try a blanket or her dolly instead of these. I am major paranoid about her teeth.
I need more advice ladies!!!!
I told myself that I would take Lily's "fassie" away when she turned two. Well, that was over 8 months ago and she still has it. We are down to one and I only let her have it at night, but I really do want to get rid of it. My brother-in-law (Britney's husband) is a pediatric dentist and he told me that 3 years old is the cut-off. So I'm not super worried about her teeth, but I just don't like that she is so dependent on her fassie. Actually, I think I am the one who is dependent on it and I just need to bite the bullet and take it away. Soon. I will let you know how it goes.
Man, if I could cork my kids with a pacifier, my life would be so much easier! None of my kids have liked them. I would appreciate the opposite advice. How in the world do you keep those things in their little mouths?
Katy I would love to know how that goes. Elianna only gets it at nap time and bedtime too, but I am a worry wort about her teeth. I think you are right, we are the more dependent then they are on these things!
Robyn, it comes in handy when they are whining and tired as a comfort, but then the aftermath is horrible. See what we are going through to stop the habit.. Your request doesn't surprise me however. Maybe dip the pacifier in sugar? I got her hooked when she was born, first a Soothie then the MAM's, it was part of our routine, milk, burb, plug!
O.K.....here it goes. Sadly enough, Sevrie (my 4 year old) takes a pacifier, or "Bobble" is what she calls it, whenever she goes to sleep. Although I'm not worried about her teeth, I understand that enough is enough.
I'm sure some of you are in disbelief that she still takes one, but honestly, I'm not worried about it. I guess I'm a casual parents that way. Her teeth haven't been affected by it at all. I'm not sure if it's because the nipple is pretty small or if it's because she only takes it when she sleeps. The brand may also be an issue too. Some brands are better for better than others.
My youngest never took a pacifier so I haven't had to worry about it with her. But I DO know the time is coming for Sevrie to "loose " her pacifier, as Amber referred to it. I'm not worried she takes one, I just want her to develop the confidence to know she doesn't NEED one to feel safe and comfortable. Once she achieves this confidence, I know it will improve other areas of Sevrie's life. I just need to sack up really and do it. I just don't want the chaos!
Do feel bad though. Only YOU know when when the time is good. Once you decide the time is now though, make sure you are consistent and follow through. And however you feel at the time, remind yourself you are a great mom and everything you do, you do for your children:-) Good luck!
Yeah- this sucks. I just "broke" Sadie's binkie a few weeks ago. She is 28 months now. She had begun chewing on it and it was torn. I was worried about it breaking off and choking her so I went ahead and cut it off. Then when she found it, rather than being sad, she was just puzzled and when she showed it to me I said "Oh no- it's broken. Maybe we should throw it away." Surprisingly, she agreed immediately and threw it in the garbage. It was no big deal. That night at bedtime, was a whole different story. She was pretty upset. Luckily we have given her a blanket from the day she was born that we always put it in her bed. That is her soothie now. But it has been tough. After 3 weeks she still asks for it. She stopped taking naps and is sleeping less at night. It is getting better day by day though.
With my first 2 I had them off binkies a few months before the next baby came along, so probably around 19 or 20 months. It was a WHOLE lot easier with them. I'm not sure why.
So, from my experience it was easier when they were a little younger, but that doesn't really mean anything. It is probably different for every mom. So best of luck to you!
Robyn, I tried probably 5 different brands till I found one my baby could keep in her mouth, then I kept at it and kept at it till she learned. I had to teach (or practically force) all my babies to use a binkie, but I'm glad I did. Don't regret it for a second. Even when it comes time to take it away.
Thomas family, that is a great idea of breaking the binky. I am so going to try it when she gets older. I don't think she will get it yet? I don't regret giving her the binky yet, I will let you know when the habit is being broken. I figure, they wouldn't have invented them and sold them if they were that horrible for a child right?
Steph,
If it hasn't affected her teeth then don't worry about it. I do worry about the "safe feeling" issue. There is a back story to this, without going to lots of detail or hurting someones feelings, someone in my family has an oral fixation and was on the bottle and another nasty habit because of this issue. So I don't want to repeat this at all. Ultimately, I just want to do what is best for Elianna my little love bug.
What brand is Sevrie on Steph?
My first son was a binky boy and lived for his binky. We decided that the sooner we took it away the less he would be attached. He would have two in his mouth and one in his hand too. We couldn't understand what he was saying because his mouth was plugged. We did the cold turkey with him and it was two hard days and nights but after that he got over it and clung to his blankie. It was easier to not do it slowly for us because we were over it in two days. Good luck. Keep us updated on how it goes. Breaking tiny ones of anything is hard, usually harder for us as mommies than the kids.
My daughter was 2 when it was time to give her paci's to other babies. I told her She was 2 now and didn't need them anymore, so I took her to pick out a stuffed animal she could sleep with instead of using the paci.... It worked, but now she wants all her stuffed animals in her bed, and she is 6... so, I don't know if there is a "right time" but when and if you decided it is time, there is NO turning back, the older he/ she is the more they will remember.
Ladies thank you so much for all your input. I love ya all! I think I will wean her sooner than later. I will let you know the outcome of my little love bugs pacifier woes!
Interestingly enough, I used a pacifier until I was pretty old, though I don't think I was as old as Sevrie. I gave Sevrie the brand I used to use. Not necessarily because I heard great things about it it, but because I used it, and because I liked the look of it. I came to find out that the nipple is most like a mommies nipple. The brand is Nuk. I love it!!! I'm sure you've heard of it because it's been around for ever. I wouldn't be surprised if they had better ones these days but all I know is that it worked. Check them out if you'd like. The shape of the nipple is different from others.......maybe affecting teeth less?
Oh the lovely Binki! My little Vivian calls it her Mimi (btw I love reading what everyone's children call this marvelous device!) I've gotta agree with Katy, I was more dependent on the binki that my Vivy. I got rid of hers a month ago and she was about 2 1/2 yrs. She only took it at night and naps but boy did that make it easy to put her down! When we got rid of it the week was painful because she wouldn't take naps and at night she kept asking for it so I tried to distract her with giving her a drink in bed. Jaren my husband is a pediatric dentist and the research shows that babies should be weined from the sucking habbit at 36 mo. But you do what you gotta do to survive as a mother!! Good luck
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